Own Your Healing: A Real Talk Cheat Sheet

Own Your Healing: A Real Talk Cheat Sheet

By Allen Dekeyser

🧠 The Truth Bomb

Self-love isn’t fluffy—it’s survival. You weren’t born doubting yourself. That voice in your head? You learned it. And now it’s time to unlearn it.

🔑 Core Beliefs to Keep You Grounded

1. Healing isn’t linear. A bad day doesn’t mean you’re back at zero.

2. You are not your thoughts. They’re just brain noise, not gospel truth.

3. You’re allowed to feel it all. Real strength is being real with yourself.

🎒 Pocket Reminder Version (for tough days):

1. Notice the inner critic. Don’t argue—just name it.

2. Meet pain with patience. Don’t double-arrow.

3. Check your physical needs. Hydrate. Rest.

4. Separate: “I think ___” + “I feel ___”

5. Drop into the body. Let feelings pass like weather.

🧭 Step-by-Step: How to Quiet the Inner Critic

Step 1: Name the Inner Bully

“There’s that voice again… judging me.”

👁 Awareness is power. If you can see it, you don’t have to be it.

Step 2: Don’t Beat Yourself Up for Feeling Bad

Pain is not a flaw. It’s a signal.

✋ Stop stacking pain on pain. You’re human. Not broken.

Step 3: Reset Your Body’s Basics

🚰 Hydrate

🛌 Sleep

🍎 Eat something real

💩 Bathroom breaks matter (seriously)

Step 4: Thought ≠ Truth

“I think I’m a failure”

“I feel ashamed about that thought”

⚔️ This separates the storm from the sky. You are not the weather.

Step 5: Let the Feeling Flow

Drop out of your head and into your body.

Breathe. Feel it. Don’t wrestle it.

Let it move through. Then let it go.

💪 Remember This:

You’re elastic, not broken.

You’ve just been surviving the only way you knew how. Now?

You’re learning a better way. That’s brave.